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Asexuality is to sexuality as atheism is to theism. It’s not another type of thing, it’s the lack of it altogether. I honestly don’t think it belongs with LGBT. It’s just not the same issue.
I thought LGBTA was a safe space for all people of different sexual orientation
. Cause, you know asexual is one of them.
And considering I grew up thinking I was broken and something was wrong with me until I got education outside school and figured out who I was with LGBTA sites and people.
I grew up with family members saying they were disappointed I would never have children. You haven’t met the right person yet! You need therapy, there’s something wrong with you. Everyone needs someone to be complete! You just need to try harder!
I forced relationships because I believed those fucking lies. I let people coerce me into doing things deep down I know I didn’t want. And I still felt nothing. Men? Well no, I have close friends, had people I cared for but I feel nothing. Women? Anyone? Same fucking result. NOTHING.
I WISH I could have easily known what I was then. it would have saved me so much pain.
I wish someone told me it was okay to want a close relationship without anything sexual. That I didn’t need to fuck someone to make a relationship meaningful. That a close platonic relationship is just as valid.
Because I AM SO FUCKING TIRED OF GATEKEEPERS DEEMING ME NOT IMPORTANT ENOUGH IN SAFE SPACES.
So you can kindly fuck off if you think excluding aces is ok because its “not the same issue.”
What a fresh hot pile of shit first thing in the morning. @andy-lazysheep , you need to change your tag from #unpopular opinion to #I’m willfully ignorant. Your blog is fairly new and full of Undertale, and you choose to shove your head into your own ass with this as you reblog Sunshine’s art? Alrighty then.
Ace is part of our umbrella. Ace people have helped build the community and keep it growing. People like YOU are the problem. People like YOU are the ones who need fixing. Asexuality is not a choice. Your ignorance is. And if you love the warmth of your own asshole too much to ever leave it, grats on being just another bigot in the pile.
“Asexuality is to sexuality as atheism is to theism. It’s not another type of thing, it’s the lack of it altogether
“
Things wrong with your argument
1) Suggesting that LGBT only stands for what gender you are willing to sleep with. To say that LGBT is only about sex is disgusting. Relationships are much more than who you want to bang.
2) Your statement sounds like that a relationship/sexuality is only valid with sex. This is VERY bad because this type of thinking leads to correctional rape. Also it leads to partners pressuring sex on others because “everyone should want sex”. [As a grey ace I’ve been pressured into sex and guilt tripped to do other things that I didn’t want to because my partner thought they could “change me”]
3) Don’t compare atheism and theism with sexuality. Atheism/Theism is a choice.
4) Even if we were to compare, what about grey aces? Are they the agnostic to sexuality??? Like that alone sounds silly. Yes, I understand your comparison isn’t suppose to be taken literally. However, that itself is the issue. I can’t take your comparison seriously because its just too metaphorical to be applied.
Honestly, to me it sounds like you aren’t aware of ace issues. You should really read up on what aces struggle with everyday, I think you will come to understand them a lot better.
Also, it would be interesting for you to question what a relationship is and how that applies to sexuality itself.(What is a relationship? What is sexuality? How does gender roles in society influence this? ect, ect, ect) I feel like you will find some interesting things!
I always felt isolated and alone with the problems I faced, and heard many other asexuals who felt the same. I keep expecting no one else understanding but I keep forgetting I’m not alone, and it really helps.
Being told your problems are not valid can be quite rage inducing.
Asexuality is to sexuality as atheism is to theism. It’s not another type of thing, it’s the lack of it altogether. I honestly don’t think it belongs with LGBT. It’s just not the same issue.
I thought LGBTA was a safe space for all people of different sexual orientation
. Cause, you know asexual is one of them.
And considering I grew up thinking I was broken and something was wrong with me until I got education outside school and figured out who I was with LGBTA sites and people.
I grew up with family members saying they were disappointed I would never have children. You haven’t met the right person yet! You need therapy, there’s something wrong with you. Everyone needs someone to be complete! You just need to try harder!
I forced relationships because I believed those fucking lies. I let people coerce me into doing things deep down I know I didn’t want. And I still felt nothing. Men? Well no, I have close friends, had people I cared for but I feel nothing. Women? Anyone? Same fucking result. NOTHING.
I WISH I could have easily known what I was then. it would have saved me so much pain.
I wish someone told me it was okay to want a close relationship without anything sexual. That I didn’t need to fuck someone to make a relationship meaningful. That a close platonic relationship is just as valid.
Because I AM SO FUCKING TIRED OF GATEKEEPERS DEEMING ME NOT IMPORTANT ENOUGH IN SAFE SPACES.
So you can kindly fuck off if you think excluding aces is ok because its “not the same issue.”
