I’m asexual. Yesterday, while having sexual education class, my teacher said tat the only sexual orientations were heterosexuality, homosexuality and bisexuality. So I asked her why nobody talked about asexuality in sexual education classes. This is what she said:
“That’s because asexuality isn’t a sexual orientation. Asexuality is a disease. Asexual people were born wrong, because everybody feels sexual attraction.”
And then, the bell rang and she leaved the classroom.
Guess who cried for about… 15 minutes? Yeah, me.
All my classmates saw me, and one of them (a girl who I thought that was my friend, and she already knew about my asexuality) asked to me: “So you have that disease??”.
I’m tired. I’m so fucking tired. It is horrible being told that “it is a phase” or that “you haven’t met the right person yet” or, even worse, “it’s a disease”.
To all the asexuals out there, stay strong.
Asexuality is not a disease.
Asexuality is not a disease.
Asexuality is not a disease.
Your teacher is wrong. She basically said that asexual people are broken and that there’s something wrong with them, which is so not true. I will fight anyone who says that aces are broken.
There is nothing wrong with asexual people.
Dunno why I posted this on my personal blog… oops. Point still stands!
Fuck that teacher. She can just stop teaching, right now.
My LGBT Studies professor denied that asexuality existed and eluded to believing that genders outside of the binary are “a fad.” Guess who dropped that class after the first day?
how?? the fuck??? did they??? get?? that job?????
When I was in high school I joined the LGBTA club as an ally. That’s what I really thought the A stood for.
Growing up and sincerely believing the “not meeting the right person yet” did so much damage to me. Getting close to someone and still feeling completely repulsed by the idea of me doing anything sexual, I honestly did think I was broken. For awhile I truly believed I couldn’t possibly love a partner if there was nothing sexual behind it.
I found out about Asexuality in my mid twenties. It was like a bolt of lightning. “Oh! This perfectly explains what I am! I wish I knew this sooner!”
It explained why I held such a strong platonic relationship with Tara. I want to be with her. I want to protect her. I love her. Platonicly. I feel for her so strongly I can’t really put it into words, but again, platonicly. (She’s my squish)
I thought kids learning about this stuff much earlier are so lucky but some of the same bullshit still resides in safe spaces. “Straight Passing,” “platonic is boring, this is for people with REAL problems”. Its so frustrating to still be invisible in a place you’d think would understand you.
I’m sorry you had to deal with someone like this. Especially as such a vulnerable age. Just remember,
THEY ARE WRONG.