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mayor dewey reminds me of me trying to be an adult

kasunshine:

andy-lazysheep:

kasunshine:

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Asexuality is to sexuality as atheism is to theism. It’s not another type of thing, it’s the lack of it altogether. I honestly don’t think it belongs with LGBT. It’s just not the same issue.

I thought LGBTA was a safe space for all people of different sexual orientation . Cause, you know asexual is one of them.

And considering I grew up thinking I was broken and something was wrong with me until I got education outside school and figured out who I was with LGBTA sites and people. 

I grew up with family members saying they were disappointed I would never have children. You haven’t met the right person yet! You need therapy, there’s something wrong with you.  Everyone needs someone to be complete!  You just need to try harder!

I forced relationships because I believed those fucking lies. I let people coerce me into doing things deep down I know I didn’t want. And I still felt nothing. Men? Well no, I have close friends, had people I cared for but I feel nothing. Women? Anyone? Same fucking result. NOTHING.

I WISH I could have easily known what I was then. it would have saved me so much pain. 

I wish someone told me it  was okay to want a close relationship without anything sexual. That I didn’t need to fuck someone to make a relationship meaningful.   That a close platonic relationship is just as valid.

Because I AM SO FUCKING TIRED OF GATEKEEPERS DEEMING ME NOT IMPORTANT ENOUGH IN SAFE SPACES.

So you can kindly fuck off if you think excluding aces is ok because its “not the same issue.”

Not sure why this post started floating around again but I reread it and was reminded how much of similar stuff I STILL hear every day.

I don’t even like discussing it with many people because I’m either dismissed or met with jokes.   My parents are very well meaning and try to understand but sometimes underhanded stuff still slips through. Strangers and acquaintances seem to always think they would know myself better than me and parrot the same lines I hear so often again and again and again.

I guess that explains why I always had at least one very close platonic relationship going on at a time. Love was there, just not anything romantic or sexual. But I know it was love, I deeply cared for this person, I would do anything for this person. Growing up I just figured the other stuff would naturally follow, but it never did. Caused a lot of pain and bullying that only reinforced my idea that I was broken.

I’m doing much better knowing what I know now, and I have a deep relationship I’m truly happy with.

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